Resilience or Resistance
Trusting the void for your highest evolution and expansion
Janice Ann
10/18/20255 min read


The great poet Rilke says, “I want to unfold. I don’t want to stay folded anywhere, because where I am folded, there I am a lie.” It is not easy to completely unfold. Our upbringing and experiences has us ready to resist anything that is different, sudden, or powerful. Yet, even when we trip and fall, we learn soon enough that it is the arm that stiffens and resists that breaks. Often, our resistance only makes things worse. As the Chinese sage Lao-Tze said 2,500 years ago, “The hard and still will be broken. The soft and supple will prevail…. Whoever is stiff and inflexible is a disciple of death. Whoever is soft and yielding is a disciple of life.” -- Mark Lepo
The part about a trip & fall with arms stiffened brought up a memory from summer 2023: one-and-a-half years in constructing the homestead, interior walls framed, we were installing wiring in the master bathroom ceiling, I slipped through a space between the studs to retrieve a tool. A boot lace caught on the opposite shoe hook and I went down - fast and straight as a board. My arms, wrists, elbows, & shoulders were locked rigid and severely sprained. For a week both arms were in slings and I required help to be bathed, fed, dressed, everything …
Hindsight is 20/20 and it doesn't lie
He had already left, being completely consumed by the construction, lack of sleep, heightened stress, financial strain, and self-medicated thereby exacerbating the disconnect. Even in the face of that, I was committed to forging onward, convinced that once the place was finished, we would have conquered the challenge and be even stronger. The absence of the version of us from before was visceral. Once I told him, “if losing you is at the end of this road, let’s stop now and sell the place, it isn’t worth it”. He, too, was apparently deluding himself as he responded in reassurance that it was all under control, we were fine, we were almost finished, etc.
A few weeks later, we were flying across the lake as an afternoon storm was blowing in quickly. Gazing over the stern from the helm, I was absorbed in the beauty of dark clouds gathering, powerfully building, gaining on us, and the curtain of dark rain that churned the lake surface, moving closer as we and other boaters were attempting to outrun it. In a split second, the boat motor died and I was thrown onto the helm into the throttle, seriously injuring my back. Once again, I couldn’t move, could barely breathe, completely helpless. When we were floating on the water - in the rain - waiting on the towboat, the voice in my head said, “You cannot outrun this storm. You are dead in the water”. Tears streaming down my face, my stubbornness doubled down and I screamed back (in my mind) “we are almost finished! We are so close… PLEASE!”.
It was arduous getting me out of the boat and into the pickup, and when we finally got on the highway, salt was poured into the gaping wound when one of the trailer tires had a blowout.
My maniacal laughter with tears of despair did not go unnoticed by my husband.
It was the fulcrum point. The pivot point when I knew something bigger than me was underway. It was indeed a breaking point.
But even then, again, I resisted. I became even more rigid in my conviction, myopically focused on the singular end result that had been the priority for years.
Suffering is a choice
Dr Gabor Mate’ says, trauma is something that happens, but suffering is what happens inside your body afterwards. I could not see an alternate route because of my rigidity. And in that resistance, the suffering continued months more until the catalyst that triggered my husband to end the marriage. The devastation that ensued was shattering. It has taken me nearly two years to process what happened.
My personal transformation depicts the threshold between an old reality and a new dimension of being.
I have learned:
Loss and stillness are not failures, but sacred pauses in evolution.
What feels like emptiness is actually the space required for new creation.
I have learned to trust the unknown and release outdated identities, systems, and comforts that cannot accompany me into higher frequency living.
This was a biggy: stillness is not stagnation. It is gestation.
The “waiting” is the becoming. It is the recalibration between endings and beginnings.
Ultimately, we must understand that our creative essence never dies. But it can only reshape itself when we stop resisting. When we surrender control, hold faith in the unseen, and open our hearts to what is quietly emerging through us, we evolve into luminous co-creators of a new reality. One of higher frequency - i.e. joy, beauty, wonderment, freedom, purpose.
Trust The Void
Get familiar with the void. You can enter and explore on your own volition or you can be surprised when the environmental circumstances launch you into it unexpectedly.
The source of endless potentials is all around us, all of the time. When the signs are obvious your current circumstances are no longer supporting the highest expansion of your life and you feel drained, tired, suppressed, lost, or you find yourself using the phrase “sick and tired” all of the time, get off of the train you’ve been riding at the very next station. Even if you don’t know where you’re going next, it’s better than staying on a train that no longer feels right. Metaphorically, this is your moment to step into the unknown, to disembark from a familiar path and trust that something greater is calling you forward.
This is the opening you’ve been calling for. The disconnection you’ve been resisting is the very gateway to your next becoming. Let go, even when the letting go shakes you. Set down the struggle, and rest in the knowing that you are well made. The knowing that you are made well. You are a gift to this Earth, and your peace in the present moment is what aligns you with your highest unfolding.
The more you accept who you are and what you are creating, the more you trust yourself to bring forth a new vision. This is one that reflects freedom, lightness, and truth. Creation begins within you. It always has. If you trust that you are good, if you trust that your heart is full of love and your intentions are pure, then you can trust your reality. What emerges from you will be good, too. And it will be beyond anything you can fathom from your viewpoint today.
Your new reality will mirror your inner state. And when you create from the void - from the quiet, peaceful, love-filled, eternally wise space after you have released - you are creating from your highest consciousness. From everything you’ve learned, released, and integrated - creation without baggage, without old limitations, without the weight of what once was - this is wisdom and alignment embodied.
Simple, but not always easy
It may not be easy. But it is simple in concept. The void isn’t empty darkness. It is pregnant with possibility. ALL potentials. ALL possibilities. ALL of the answers and ideas and new experiences. And the moment you trust it, it becomes the birthplace of your next beautiful reality.
This happens as quickly as you let it happen... Take my word for it, with faith and resilience is the preferred route.
Contact
janice@revealalchemizeheal.com
903.821.6683

